BY MRS. AYOOLUWA OMONITAN
ILESA SOUTH WEST DIOCESE, IBADAN PROVINCE
A relationship is a way in which two or more people or things are connected with or involve each other. In otherwise could be seen as the way in which two or more people or group behave towards each other
Types of relationships
- BLOOD RELATIONSHIP: These involve family members
- SCHOOL/BUSINESS: School mates or business companions relating together.
- SOCIETY/ COMMUNITY: This is between people living together or belonging to the same group.
- MARRIAGE: it is a union between a man and a woman to become husband and wife.
In all these relationships, LOVE is a very important factor that makes it last longer. (Mark 12:31, 1 Corinthians 13).
These imply relating among ourselves whether in the family, community, business, etc.
The major ingredient in having a good relationship is love and mutual understanding. In addition, relationships have to be built.
How do we build good interpersonal relationships?
We can build a good relationship through the following:
- Understanding: Among all the organisms that God created, human beings are the most difficult to handle. However, the key to handling them is the understanding that no human is an angel, that is, 100% perfect. All humans on earth have weak points, if you understand this you will not take offense for too long.
- Learn total forgiveness: that is forgive and forget offenses. Number 1 is linked with ‘2’ since you understand that human has weak points, so when the weak point is being revealed, you will not be offended for long. The weak point may be anger, selfishness, hatred, pride, etc.
- Learn to accept people as they are (with their weak points.)
- Learn to pray for people who offend you. This may be difficult but with the help of the Holy Spirit, it can be done. When someone offends you and hurts you so much if you can pray it over, report the case to God as if you are telling someone, tell God how you feel about the issue, and ask Him (God) to help you to overlook and cope with the fellow. This way, you will overcome it.
- Learn to communicate: where there is no communication, there is a lot of misconception and misunderstanding. Do not assume things, learn to ask questions, find out, don’t say ‘I think this is what is in his/her mind’. Don’t use actions to tell people that you are crossed with them. Always speak up your mind and encourage people to do the same.
- Have a listening spirit: don’t always be the speaker, listen to other people’s side of the matter. Listen and ponder on the points before reacting to issues.
- Learn to say sorry when you are wrong
- Learn to appreciate people: don’t only criticize but learn to appreciate the good that people do.
Conclusion: In conclusion, as children teachers and as Christians, we need one another, and we must learn to tolerate one another. Ultimately, all these points that make up for good interpersonal relationships cannot be engaged in by mere willpower. However, with the Holy Spirit, it becomes so easy. It is our personal relationship with God that will reflect in our interpersonal relationships with others.